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    Posts from August 2008

    August 28, 2008

    Listening and Hearing

    0808_foxYou can listen to words, but you hear intentions. So frequently we listen without hearing.  Everyone seeks to be heard, but few speak their truth eloquently enough so that people listen and they are truly heard.  The eloquence of truth is to speak from the heart and allow the words to rise and flow from the mouth. When they are spoken from the head, they drop and fall from the mouth. 

             

    How many times have you been listening to your radio, stereo, television, or a conversation with another person and realized that you hadn't heard a single thing? Today we are overloaded with noise of every type and because we are overloaded, we simply don't listen. Or, if we listen, we certainly don't hear.

             

    For those of us who live in cities, finding a quiet refuge away from the sounds and noises of civilization is something we seek but seldom experience. So off we go to the beach, the mountains, to a quiet resort for a relaxing time and what do we do?  We take our noise with us on the ski slopes, out on the water, or sitting by the pool. Our noise blocks out not only the sounds of nature, but what others say as well. No wonder we have so many communication problems. No wonder we pay therapists fortunes just so we feel we can feel heard. (And even in therapy,are you really heard or does the therapist just listen for their agenda rather than truly hearing you?)

             

    Why is speaking from the heart preferable to speaking from the head?

    In actuality, we need to combine both our hearts and our heads. We must use our head to be sound and logical, but wisdom comes from the heart. Without knowledge, without wisdom, without the combination, what we say will too often fall on deaf ears. 

                   

    Challenge: Next time someone says something that touches your deepest being, notice whether it was merely spoken from the heart, spoken from the head, or did it integrate both parts of your being?

    Posted by Bernice Ross

    Photo by Yvonne in Willowick, Ohio

    August 23, 2008

    Was Biden the Right Pick for Obama's VP?

    808_joe_biden_marcn In my post dated August 5, 2008, I noted that both Barack Obama and John McCain were born in the summer time, which is the "south" or emotional time of the year using the Native American Medicine Wheel. Scientific research supports the fact that people born in the summer have stronger, more resiliant nervous systems as compared to those born at other times of the year. Obama, however, rather than starting with home place on the Wheel in the emotional, seems to be using a more North (i.e. winter birth pattern) of being more thinking based. McCain, in contrast, is the "most emotional Senator in the Senate."

    Obama's drop in the polls over the last few weeks has been surprising to many. Obama won the primaries by tapping into America's feelings. As I said in the earlier post, Americans have preferred to elect summer born or "emotionally" based Presidents for the last half century. Obama's shift to a more "nuanced" or intellectual approach appears to be costing him at the polls. The good news for the Democratic convention this week will be that it will be highly emotional and can perhaps turn around the current trends.

    In terms of the VP spot, Joseph Biden was born in November or the "West" portion of the Native American Medicine Wheel. If Obama gets back on his message of hope and returns to a more emotional and inspiring approach, then Biden provides him with "forward" movement to the physical/knowledge part of the Wheel. Like Hillary Clinton who was also born in the West, Biden is highly experienced, very knowledgeable, and knows how to get things done.

    On the other hand, if Obama continues to be based in the thinking or North part of the Wheel, then Biden can draw Obama into the the "think-do" pattern which creates poor results. This is bad enough when we do it in our own lives, but it can have profound ramifications when our country moves to this approach. (BTW, Bush's pattern is to start with the emotional, his home place on the Wheel and back into his beliefs for justification. This is the pattern he used to justify having the U.S. tak action in Iraq).

    If Obama shifts back to emotion, then uses Biden's "experience" to formulate a plan, then they're back on track. Nevertheless, what seems to be missing from this equation is how they will tackle the spiritual/belief/community side of this equation. Success comes from using the emotional, physical, mental, and spirtual together. If you leave out any part of the equation, the results can be distrastroug.

    Unlike the Clintons who polled constantly to monitor what the country/community was thinking on various issues, it's unclear to what extent Obama is listening to those outside his campaign. If he were listening to what the polling data said, he would have chosen a different "West" person, Hillary Clinton, for the VP spot. Fifty-six percent of the Democrats wanted her on the ticket.

    Since the Democrats are having their convention during the "emotional" part of the year, look for this to be an emotionally powerful event. Since emotions are running high, don't be surprised if there are more than a few emotional outbursts. Given that America still seems to be focused on "feeling," this week should deliver plenty for everyone.

    Posted by Bernice Ross, author of Going Where: Ancient Wisdom for People Today

    Photo by MarcN

    August 05, 2008

    Barack Obama and John McCain--Will the Most Emotional Senator Win the Presidency?

    808_sign One of the key principles about the Native American Medicine Wheel is that forward motion yields positive outcomes and backward motion produces negative outcomes. In a previous post, dated February 8, 2008, I argued that we would probably elect a President who was born in the summer. The summer is associated with the emotional part of the Wheel (referred to as the "South.") The basis for making that prediction is that since 1988, all of our Presidents have been born in the summer including Bill Clinton. In 2008, we are still as a society, pursuing our feelings. Logic is not as important as honoring what we feel.

    Even though Hillary Clinton was still the "presumptive" nominee at the time, given the emotional nature of our times today, it didn't seem likely that her message of "experience" would resonate with the American electorate. Clinton is born in the fall the "West" direction on the Wheel.  She has a masterful knowledge of the facts and can discuss them easily with no notes. This is what you would expect from a West person--knowledge or "knowing" is their key strength. HIllary emphasized her experience which is a West's person's greatest strength. The electorate, however, wanted to feel good and Obama's message of hope hit the right chord.

    In contrast to Hillary Clinton, McCain and Obama are both in the South/Emotional part of the Wheel. What's interesting to note is that even though they both have emotions as their base strength, their demeanors and styles are quite different.

    McCain is known as the most emotional Senator in the Senate. He trusts his gut and is unafraid to go against what others think. He makes decisions trusting his emotions first and then combines that with his experience, before making a plan. Because of this approach, he has gained a reputation as a maverick. His willingness to work with Democrats, often to his party's chagrin, demonstrates that he takes actions based upon his community as well. This is full forward motion on the Wheel.

    Furthermore, those born in the summer have no challenge coping with emotional turmoil.  The scientific research shows that those born in the summer have calmer, more resilient nervous systems, as compared to those born at other times of the year. This may also help to explain how McCain was able to endure five years of torture that would have destroyed most people. McCain goes from his emotion and ties it to his experience. McCain's movement movement on the Wheel may at least partially account for  the "positive outcome" of his nomination.

    Obama's approach is very different. He radiates a calm, even approach. The challenge for Obama in terms of the Wheel is that he appears to be taking a "North" approach to the campaign that emphasizes thinking rather than emotions. 

    For example, after defeating Hillary Clinton, Obama began expanding his campaign support. Hillary's supporters were accustomed to in-fighting and confrontation. Any one who wanted to join the Obama campaign was told that the tenor of this campaign would not allow for internal disruptive behaviors. North individuals want to avoid confrontation. They prefer to approach things logically. Some of Obama's supporters have termed the former college professor, "the most thoughtful person in the Senate." Unlike McCain, Obama tends to trust his head rather than his gut. This is a serious problem for anyone who is born in the South/Summer since emotion is their strength.

    Using the Wheel as a guideline, Obama would be better served by returning to his message of hope. People feel good when they hear Obama speak. He inspires them and helps them to feel that things will improve if he is elected. Remember, the American electorate is still feeling based. As Obama has shifted his message from hope to "citizen of the world" and "We are the ones that we have been waiting for," (this is moving to the East or community part of the Wheel and is backward movement), he has veered away from what took him to the nomination--tapping into America's feelings.

    While the American public loves hope, they are also angry about gas prices and they have legitimate fears about an expanded conflict in the Middle East. Yesterday, Putin said that Russia should be back in Cuba. McCain will probably continue to play upon the emotions of anger and fear. His rise in the polls during the last week shows that tapping into American emotions is working for him.

    Bill Clinton won the 1992 election by portraying himself as the "Man from Hope." The question for Obama is how he will meet the challenge--with thought which will probably cost him the election or with hope?

    Posted by Bernice Ross

    Photo by MarcN

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